Suicide Statistics World Headquarters are located at Vancouver BC, Canada.

March/2012.MICROWAVE MIND CONTROL [heading] It has come to my attention by a reader of this site, the possible scientific reasons for the increase in suicides worldwide in the last 10 years. Cell phones have microwave frequencies that can cause health problems. We have all heard of this and wonder if its true, however the scientific documentation also mentions that microwave frequency of 452 MHz and 6.66 Hz [emitted by cell phones]can cause depression,manic and riotous behavior ,nervous breakdown, physical collapse  and in some cases can lead to suicide!! These findings are remarkable. The question.....is why is this information suppressed by the media? Perhaps the billion dollar phone companies have the power to stifle the information just to make more money. The list of scientific references are to long to list on this site, however send us an email for the free list. Just a few references as follows:Bulletin of the New York Academy of Medicine Vol 1l55 #11; Dr Ross Adey formally of the Brain Research Center now at Loma Linda Univ. Medical School. He worked on the Pandora project and was concerned with specific behavior modification by electromagnetic means and events to interfere with brain function. Electroencephalography and Clinical Neurophysiology Vol. 23. The question: is your cell phone dangerous to your health and your brain and what to do about it?

SUICIDES FROM BULLYING!!
Every day more than one child takes their own life because of bullying.The latest child  to die by suicide was only 11 years old!! He had a slight physical handicap, and was always tormented. For each suicide, there are up to 10, yes 10(!) attempted suicides, with broken backs and broken minds, forever. God help the families that are left behind to assist,pay for all the costs, plus the emotional trauma forever for those left behind. THIS HAS TO STOP!!!!  CONTACT YOUR ELECTED REPRESENTATIVE TO GET LEGISLATION ENACTED: MAKE BULLYING A CRIME-THIS IS AS CLOSE TO MURDER AS IT GETS!!  PLUS GET ENACTED, CIVIL COURT ACTION AGAINST THE PARENTS AND OR   GUARDIANS OF THE "BULLIER", AND AGAINST THE BULLIER. PLUS AUTOMATIC EXPULSION OF THE BULLIER FROM WHATEVER EDUCATIONAL INSTITUTION, and have this record attached to the bullier for life.

SUMMER OF SUICIDES?
3 high profile National Hockey League  young ice hockey players, have died suddenly this summer of 2011.The guess is suicide. They have much in common.All three were "enforcers", meaning their orders were to hit hard/antagonize/disturb the opposition. One of the worst case tragedies of this type of play lately: one of the best players in the world, young Sidney Crosby was hit on the head twice by 2 different "enforcers"[not by the 3 above that recently died], and has suffered serious concussion, and its not sure if he will ever[or if his doctors]will ever allow him to play again.  Another recent sudden death was a National League Football great,[age 41] that suffered major head injuries,and depression as a result of playing the game. Prior to shooting himself in the chest, he left a note asking for medical research on his brain, because he could no longer live with what the brain injuries were doing to him-depression etc. Recently this summer, a well known young actor Russell Armstrong[Beverly Hills Reality Star] died by suicide[hanging] The aforementioned were well known, however this 2011 "summer of suicides" thousands[yes thousands-in USA/Canada] ordinary citizens died by suicide, and for each suicide, there are 7 to 10 attempted suicides! Many attempts result in a lifetime of disability, broken backs, broken minds. And guess who[loved ones and friends],now have to help the "broken" living attempted suicide persons, now living disabled, a drag on everyone forever. What a terrible cost to society. THE MEDIA AND THE GOVERNMENTS OF THE DAY HAVE AN UNWRITTEN AGREEMENT NOT TO REPORT 'SUICIDES' AS 'SUICIDES'. Instead they generally report as "sudden death'. The reasons given to the creator of this site by the media and governments: afraid of "copycat" suicides. An ordinary citizen might suicide because a famous person suicides. THATS BULL! There is no statistical evidence of this. DID YOU KNOW THAT FOR EACH MURDER REPORTED IN THE MEDIA EACH DAY THERE ARE 10 TIMES MORE SUICIDES THAT DAY!!! 

WARNING RE: TAKING PRESCRIPTION DRUG MEDICATION FOR DEPRESSION. IN JULY-2011 ISSUE OF PEOPLES MAGAZINE there are 4 ads about taking certain drugs for depression:SEROQUEL-XR/ABILIFY/CYMBALTA/PRISTIQ/. ALL HAVE WARNINGS THAT TAKING THE RX DRUGS MENTIONED "INCREASED RISK OF SUICIDE THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS", and or may cause or make some conditions worse:mania/bipolar disorder/or seizures or convulsions. The creator of this site worked for 15 years for 2 major RX Companies. The trend in the last few years to increase Co. earnings is to lift "depression" medications into billion $ products. If depressed, ask yourself "do I want to take medication that will give me thoughts of or increased thoughts of suicide? The answer must be "no". Explore other ways to battle your depression.

FLASH! ...AUG/2011-VANSUNNEWS REPORT: THE BC COURTS HAVE JUST APPROVED A SPEED UP TRIAL REQUESTED BY A CITIZEN WITH CRITICAL ILLNESS TO DECIDE ON HER REQUEST TO DIE BY ASSISTED SUICIDE. WE, AT www.suicidestats.org  will oppose, and challenge every time such requests are made. We have no quarrel with anyone that wants to die by suicide....most people think that's their right. However, the persons..loved ones and friends left behind by the suicide are the ones hurt and will suffer forever....no one has the right to do that to those left behind...and be put in "the club that no one wants to join". There is much scientific evidence over the last 50 years that the loved ones left behind by the suicide of a loved one sometimes suffer for their entire lifetime:with depression,suicide ideation,suicide,suicide attempts,alcoholism,addictions-drugs and prescription medicine,criminal activity and more. WHAT RIGHT DOES ANYONE HAVE TO INFLICT SUCH PAIN ON THOSE LEFT BEHIND BY COMMITTING SUICIDE? YES, SUICIDE GETS RID OF ALL THE PROBLEMS ON THIS EARTH, BUT YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO INFLICT OTHERS WITH A LIFETIME OF HURT AND DISFUNCTION. BEWARE AND FIGHT AGAINST ASSISTED SUICIDE,WHICH IS CURRENTLY AGAINST THE LAW. Recently, a group and a BC Lawyer tried to register a society called "Farewell Society' to lobby for assisted suicide. Registration was denied, but its in appeal. Help stop them. Three States in USA allow legally assisted suicide. Some medical doctors from those States recently had letters to the editor[Vancouver Sun News]printed, and outlined the abuse of the assisted suicide programs in their States, and urged Canadians not to adopt such laws. Contact your politicians and stop assisted suicide legislation from ever becoming law in Canada. The life you save may be your own.

INQUESTS:IF A LOVED ONE HAS DIED SUDDENLY, YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO REQUEST AND INQUEST. IN MOST CASES AT NO COST TO YOU. HOWEVER, THERE ARE CERTAIN RULES TO BE FOLLOWED FOR APPROVAL. EMAIL US FOR FURTHER INFORMATION. AN INQUEST IS LIKE A COURT TRIAL.[WITH A JURY] ALL PERSONS THAT HAVE KNOWN YOUR LOVED ONE, MEDICALLY TREATED,ASSISTED,WORKED WITH,OR MAY OR MAY NOT HAVE REVALENT INFORMATION ABOUT THE NATURE OF AND OR CAUSE OF THE DEATH OF YOUR LOVED ONE CAN BE "CALLED" TO TESTIFY AT THEIR EXPENSE. THOSE TESTIFYING ARE UNDER OATH AND SUBJECT TO PERJURY CHARGES IF NOT TRUTHFUL. POTENTIAL CRIMINAL AND OR CIVIL CHARGES MIGHT FOLLOW THE CESSATION OF THE TRIAL. THE INFORMATION FORTHCOMING FROM THE INQUEST MIGHT PROVIDE THOSE LEFT BEHIND WITH BETTER "CLOSURE", AND RECOMMENDATIONS AS TO HOW TO PREVENT SUCH DEATHS IN THE FUTURE, AND POSSIBLE RECOMMENDATIONS AS TO FUTURE TREATMENT AND METHODS OF OPERATIONS BY THE PROFESSIONALS HANDLING SUCH CASES. CONTACT US FOR HOW TO REQUEST AN INQUEST.

APRIL,22,2011 IT HAS BEEN DETERMINED THAT CANADA DOES NOT HAVE LAWS REGULATING THE PRESCRIBING OF A"COCKTAIL"OF DRUGS [4 OR MORE DIFFERENT DRUGS TAKEN AT THE SAME TIME] as described in the following artlcle re:new USA laws. The creators of this site are now lobbying the Govt. of Canda to enact similar laws like the USA. Worldwide readers of this site:please advise us by email if your country has/or has not similar laws enacted/in force 2011 re:"cocktail"drug prescribing.

To help reduce ever escalating suicide rates in USA,certain USA Dept.s of Health are now mandated by law: Physicians prescribing painkillers,anti-anxiety,and anti-psychotic drugs,especially when used simultaneously in so-called "drug cocktails"-were sited as contributing factors in suicides and accidental drug overdose deaths. Accidental drug overdoses[deaths] have tripled since 2001.Suicides have also greatly increased. The new policy for M.D.s prescribing drugs,focusing on psychotropics like anti-depressants and the broad range of drugs that depress the central nervous system is: 1. Requires patients to sign "informed consent" documents stating they understand the potential risks of their drug regimen,and requires any patient taking 4 or more medications to meet with a clinical pharmacist for a "comprehensive review" of the regimen. 2.Requires M.D.s who prescribe medications to undergo annual training on the dangers of prescribing multiple drugs simultaneously 3. Limits the initial prescriptions to a single 30-day supply in order to monitor effects.4. Formalizes communication between M.D. specialists and the patients general practitioner,the patient and the patients Family, especially when the patient is taking drugs that may alter behavior. Note:Use of anti-anxiety drugs such as Klonopin and Xanax rose by some 72% in the years 2005 to 2009. Prescriptions filled for psychiatric drugs in ages 18-34 rose by 42% in the same period. Note:I worked for 15 years for 2 major[worldwide] RX.CO.S and know the goal of most RX.Co.s......1[ONE] BILLION $$$ A YEAR SALES FOR EACH RX DRUG

16 % OF B.C. CHILDREN IN GRADES 7 TO 12 HAVE ATTEMPTED SUICIDE!!!..IMAGINE 16%!! AMAZING STATISTIC FROM THE MOOD DISORDERS SOCIETY OF CANADA, AS REPORTED IN THE VANCOUVER BC CANADA "PROVINCE NEWSPAPER" FEB/12/2011

WARNING. Persons on the internet are counseling persons to commit suicide[which is against the law].The first attempt at prosecution starts this spring in MINNESOTA USA,against USA citizen WM. MELCHERT DINKEL, according to CBC TV REPORT 5TH ESTATE JAN/18/2011. DINKEL is accused of counseling at least 5 persons that actually committed suicide, including one young university student at OTTAWA CANADA. His method was to pretend he was a woman, that was also going to commit suicide.He suggested the preferred method of suicide was by hanging,and even provided the way to do it at home,and even the rope size and length! Then he encouraged persons to suicide in front of a web cam,so he could watch!! Turns out he is married, with 2 teenaged children,and a nurse/para medic!! THIS IS SEEMS, IS A LEGAL WAY TO COMMIT MURDER!!!! IF YOU ARE READING THIS, AND YOU KNOW OF ANYONE COUNSELLING TO COMMIT SUICIDE CONTACT THE AUTHORITIES IMMEDIATELY. IT COULD SAVE YOUR LIFE, OR THE LIFE OF SOMEONE YOU LOVE.

NEWS ITEM:JAN/5/2011. 26% OF PERSONS UNDER AGE 21, THAT ARE GAY OR BI-SEXUAL ATTEMPT SUICIDE. SUICIDE IN THE 14th ,15th, 16th, 17th CENTURIES WAS CONSIDERED A CRIME, AND IN SOME COUNTRIES, A STAKE WAS DRIVEN THROUGH THE CHEST OF THE DEAD PERSON,THEN BURIED, WITH PART OF THE STAKE SHOWING ABOVE THE GRAVE, AS A WARNING TO OTHERS NOT TO SUICIDE.

BEWARE-BEFORE YOU USE THE FOLLOWING PRESCRIPTION DRUGS: AMBIENT[SLEEPING PILL] AND CHANTIX[STOP SMOKING PILL] BOTH HAVE CONTRAINDICATIONS OF SUICIDE IDEATION. IN SOME PERSONS,MEANING, SUICIDE THOUGHTS, THAT THEY DID NOT HAVE BEFORE YOU STARTED TAKING THE PILLS. AVOID THESE RX. DRUGS, AND USE SOMETHING ELSE. DONT TAKE A CHANCE ON SUICIDE THOUGHTS,OTHERWISE YOU MIGHT DECIDE TO SUICIDE,OR ATTEMPT SUICIDE. ITS NOT AN OPTION. ESPECIALLY TO THOSE YOU WILL LEAVE BEHIND IF YOU SUICIDE.

SUICIDE INVESTIGATIONS:MORE INFO/MORE FACTS/MORE CLOSURE. AS OF JUNE 1,2010, WE CAN NOW REFER YOU TO A LICENSED PRIVATE INVESTIGATION FIRM WITH AFFILIATE OFFICES IN CANADA AND USA.PLUS WORLD WIDE CONNECTIONS IF REQUIRED. THERE IS NO CHARGE FOR THIS SERVICE REFERRAL, AND WE DO NOT PARTICIPATE IN ANY FEES CHARGED BY THE INVESTIGATION COMPANY, PLUS THERE IS STRICT CONFIDENTIALITY BETWEEN YOU AND THE INVESTIGATION COMPANY.

THIS IS THE FINEST EXAMPLE OF PSYCHOLOGICAL AUTOPSY AND SUICIDE RECONSTRUCTION. TO ASSIST IN CLOSURE FOR THOSE LEFT BEHIND. IN ADDITION, WE ARE NOW DEALING WITH THE LIFE INSURANCE COMPANIES TO HAVE THIS DEATH RULED AN ACCIDENT,HENCE A POSSIBLE 100% MORE DOLLARS PAID ON THE CLAIM.

Flash...A breakthrough in determining if a person died by suicide or was it an accident? Over a year ago a family requested that we try to find out if their loved one, actually died by suicide or an accident. Our investigation was extensive and detailed. It involved p.i. Investigations, court ordered compliance in obtaining medical files and records, interviews of friends, relatives, neighbors, workmates and others. In addition, police tapes and 911 calls, hard drives and other documented evidence were obtained.

The result...We have documented evidence, including witness statements that refute the coroner's investigation that suggest this case was a suicide. Expert review of this new information is conclusive that the subject did not commit suicide at all; that he desperately tried to get back onto safer ground from where he accidentally fell. He was observed by numerous witnesses "falling backwards" to his death. This information, accumulated worldwide, is conclusive in that persons' who intend to commit suicide from a great height do not fall backwards. Rather, the subject in this case had changed his mind about his first intentions and actually tried to reach solid footing to reclaim safety. Consequently, review of this breakthrough information by expert professionals concludes that this tragedy was, in fact, an accident. This new information has given the family left behind and significant others accelerated closure and healing. Their loved one had changed his mind and decided not to die by suicide.

PREFACE:
Persons of many religions have contacted the creator of this site www.suicidestats.org at my request to inform as to their religions stand on 'suicide'. Here are 2 comments from 2 different Christian Churches. REFLECTIONS ON SUICIDE[by John Odhner] What Should We Think About Suicide? Suicide brings up a lot of pain and grief for those affected by it. There is usually a lot of anger,guilt and depression surrounding it,and the process of working through these feelings can take a lot of time. Unfortunately,these feelings are often compounded by expressions of criticism,judgment and blame.We think,"If only this person had behaved differently," or, "That person should have done something sooner." We may pass judgment on the person who commits suicide,or we may place the blame on family or friends. Either way, it puts an additional, unnecessary burden on people who are already burdened. Some people say that those who commit suicide cannot go to heaven,or will suffer terrible after death because of their suicide. Perhaps this idea is intended as a deterrent to suicide. I think it actually is not an effective way to prevent suicide,since it can make a suicidal person feel even more unloved and distant from God. In addition, I believe it causes extra pain for the family and friends, who then have to deal with the thought that someone they love is headed for hell or suffering horrible punishments. They are already in a very painful situation,dealing with real hurts, and don't need imaginary and hypothetical ones added. Furthermore,I believe that it is wrong to pass such judgments on people, living or dead. ARE PEOPLE PUNISHED AFTER DEATH FOR SUICIDE? The person who suicides from pressures beyond their control[such as mental illness or insanity] they will not suffer for it at all in the next life. From this we can see that a person who is basically good who commits suicide will not be punished at all for this in the other life,because their intention in committing suicide is not to hurt other people. Also we can see how useless and even hurtful it can be to blame suicide on the individual who kills himself, or on the person's family or friends. It's possible that we are at fault for harboring evil desires that draw such evil spirits to us,but it could also be something that is completely out of our control and not at all our fault. I suspect that some people may commit suicide because they see their life headed in a bad direction and they feel it would be better to die than be drawn further along the path to hell. THE HEROISM OF GIVING UP ONE'S LIFE-Every act has its quality for the motivation. Suicide can be a very selfish act which shows complete disregard for other people.Yet giving up one's life is a heroic act if the purpose is to protect others. It is the ultimate expression of unselfish love. Greater love has no one than this:to lay down one's life for ones friends.[John 15:13] [cont.]

SECOND CHRISTIAN CHURCH DENOMINATION PHILOSOPHY ON SUICIDE: God gives life, and only God can take life away. The person that takes his or hers life for any reason, will never reach heaven or ever see their relatives or friends in the afterlife. There is no forgiveness for such an act. If you wish the name of this Church Denomination please email.

SUICIDE AND HEROISM When a person commits suicide as an escape, or worse, as a way of causing suffering to others,it is a selfish act-just the opposite of heroism. Yet at times the line between heroism and suicide becomes blurred.It is the MOTIVE more than the action that makes the difference,and looking at others we see only the APPARENT motive. We may not know the real reason a person takes their own life. It can also happen that a person may have heroic motives when all we see outwardly is an attempt at suicide. When a person commits suicide, we do not know what kind of battles they are going through,and what good reasons they may have for giving up their life. Perhaps what seems to us a selfish act is actually a heroic effort to give up selfishness. We cannot judge. The Lord's providence governs the time of a person's death. [Spiritual Diary 5002,5003] Death is not the end of life,but a continuation of life,and we live in the spiritual world a life similar to the life we live here,with the difference that in heaven things are much closer to perfection. People who are mentally ill are not free and rational, so they are not spiritually responsible for their behavior. SUMMARY:Suicide can leave us feeling that life is extremely confusing, complex and painful.It will often be seen to make absolutely no sense at all. The teachings here will not take away all the pain,but they may bring a little clarity and comfort to people who have been faced with suicide. To summarize: A person may take their own life for good reasons,bad reasons, or a mixture of both.We cannot judge the inner motivations involved in suicide,only the outward appearances. Sometimes what looks like suicide may have a heroic motive hidden inside. The person who commits suicide may be a victim of forces entirely beyond his or her control. And one act,or mistake at the end of a person's life,even committed deliberately,will not destroy all a person's good lives and intentions. The Lord is infinitely loving and merciful,both to those who feel that love and to those who feel isolated from it. Submitted by John Odhner.

Note:the aforementioned article has been shortened somewhat for the sake of brevity. If the reader wants the entire article and the name of the Christian Church, please request by email.

Did You know?

NOV/2010 UPDATE: Macleans Magazine[Canada] Nov/11/2010 . Victoria B.C. Canada. Suicide of a Canadian Forces soldier,suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder after serving in Bosnia and Afganistan. His mother blames the military fo failing to provide the help he needed, and for its treatment of the family afterwards:they lost his will,organized a funeral without consulting the family and KEPT HIS SUICIDE NOTE FROM THEM FOR 14 MONTHS!! In addition the Military sent a letter to his Mother forbidding further contact with the department,because of her persistency. In frustration the Mother arranged a press conference,and within hours she had a 'partial apology' from the Chief of Defence Staff and a meeting with the Govt. of Canada Defence Minister. THIS IS ANOTHER EXAMPLE OF 'SUCIDE'BEING HIDDEN AND SWEPT UNDER THE CARPET.

SEPT/2010 UPDATE:News Item from Bloomberg Businessweek News[Sept/13-19] PHOTO OF THE SUICIDE NETS AT WORKERS HOUSING IN CHINA. However,this does not stop the high suicide rate.The following is a news article from McClatchy Newspapers,reprinted by VanBCSunNews[Sept/20/2010] states: Suicide is the leading cause of sudden death in China. China has 26% of all the suicides in the World according to the World Health Organization. Suicide is the leading cause of death for women in China. Poor labourers and factory worker migrants working in the cities,are at times exploited and treated like cattle. Sometimes their bosses dont pay them,and when they go to argue,the bosses beat them and dump them in the river,and get away with it, in most cases. Or when some employers dont pay the staff, sometimes the worker commits suicide. There are so many corpses floating down many of China.s rivers, that a thriving business has developed for 'body fishers", persons snagging the floating bodies from the currents to display the faces to grieving loved ones trying to find their family member. The "body fishers" charge high fees US$45[a big sum in China] just to turn a corpse over to see the face,and 10 times that for the body!! The average factory wage in CHINA is $175 a month,for 12 hours a day,6 days a week, which equals= 61 cents per hour!! These hard workers....some would call them slaves[my words] these workers are crushed in the extraordinary stress of China.s economic boom,resulting in the highest suicide rate in the World. Then add mental illness,drug and alcohol addiction,industrial accidents then its a sad reality. The buyers of Chinese products are feeding this tragedy. For example: the production stats of a "smart phone" for a well known international company are 117 thousand phones a DAY! ....at the lowest possible price. Thats a lot of pressure....times the millions of other products produced every day by the new slaves. Yes, many workers get marginal food and lodging included,or in rare cases a housing allowance of $44 a month for 2 persons sharing. Think about the aformentioned when considering buying a 'MADE IN CHINA' product.

SEPT/2009 UPDATE: THE PARLIAMENT OF CANADA WILL BE VOTING SOON ON EUTHANASIA AND PHYSICIAN ASSISTED SUICIDE CALLED BILL C-384. IF C-384 PASSES INTO LAW,THIS WILL BE DEVASTATING TO FAMILIES IN CANADA,ESPECIALLY THOSE LEFT BEHIND BY THE SUICIDE OF A TERMINALLY ILL LOVED ONE. THOSE LEFT BEHIND BY THE SUICIDE OF A LOVED HAVE NO IDEA HOW THEY WILL REACT, AFTER THE SUICIDE. THE TERMINALLY ILL PERSON DECIDING TO SUICIDE WILL,IN MOST CASES, ASK FOR THE OPINIONS OF FAMILY AND PERHAPS FRIENDS. WHAT TO SAY? ITS A LOOSE/LOOSE POSITION. YES YOU AGREE OR NO YOU DONT. WHAT A POSITION TO BE IN. IF THE LOVED ONE DECIDES TO DIE, YES, ALL THEIR PAIN/TROUBLES/FINANCIAL WORRYS ARE GONE FOREVER..FOR THEM. BUT NOT FOR THOSE LEFT BEHIND IN 'THE CLUB NO ONE WANTS TO JOIN'. FOR THOSE LEFT BEHIND..A LIFETIME OF TRAUMA...BURDENED BY THAT YES OR NO ANSWER. AND NOW AT INCREASED RISK OF DEPRESSION/ALCOHOLISM/DRUG ADDICTION/AND INCREASED FINANCIAL STRESS...FOR LIFE..PLUS CHILDREN AND GRANDCHILDREN OF THE PERSON THAT SUICIDES ARE ALSO AT AN INCREASED RISK FOR THE AFORMENTIONED. HELP STOP BILL C-384! CONTACT YOUR MEMBER OF PARLIAMENT TODAY,AND SPREAD THE WORD TO YOUR RELIGIOUS DENOMINATION/SERVICE CLUB AND OTHERS TO STOP C-384.

• WORLDWIDE MORE PEOPLE DIE BY SUICIDE THAN BY HOMICIDE AND WAR!
  SUICIDE IS THE SECOND LEADING CAUSE OF DEATH FOR YOUTH AND YOUNG ADULTS[AGE 10-24].
  IT'S ALSO IS ONE OF THE LEADING CAUSES OF DEATH FOR ADULTS [AGES 25-44]
  MOST PEOPLE THINK ABOUT SUICIDE AT SOME POINT IN THEIR LIVES.
  WORLD SUICIDE PREVENTION DAY IS SEPT 10.
  
  
• DEPRESSION AND SUICIDE: 1 IN 4 PERSONS WILL BECOME CLINICALLY DEPRESSED IN THEIR LIFETIME, REQUIRING SOME FORM OF TREATMENT. CLOSE TO 20 % OF THOSE PEOPLE WILL DIE BY SUICIDE. A FRIGHTENING STATISTIC! IN OTHER WORDS, OUT OF EVERY 100 PERSONS 25 WILL BECOME CLINICALLY DEPRESSED IN THEIR LIFETIME, AND 4 OR 5 WILL DIE BY SUICIDE. THIS IS A CATASTROPHE. EVERYTHING MUST BE DONE TO REDUCE THIS TRAGEDY.
  
  
• 75 TO 80 % OF ALL SUICIDES ARE MEN. SUICIDE RATES HAVE TRIPLED IN CANADA SINCE THE 1960s
  
  
• COSTS ASSOCIATED WITH SUICIDE - COSTS FOR FIRST HOSPITAL ADDMISSION-OVER $5000. THEREAFTER FROM $3000 TO OVER $30,000.
  LIFETIME FINANCIAL LOSS TO SOCIETY AND THE FAMILY OF A WORKING ADULT[25-65] THAT SUICIDES NEARLY ONE MILLION DOLLARS!
  
  
• 8 TO 10 % OF THOSE PERSONS ATTEMPTING SUICIDE ARE SUCCESSFUL IN KILLING THEMSELVES.
  
  
• FOR EVERY SUICIDE, 8 TO 10 PERSONS ARE UNSUCCESSFUL IN ATTEMPTING SUICIDE, RESULTING OFTEN IN PERMANENT PHYSICAL INJURY AND/OR DAMAGE TO THE BRAIN [THROUGH OVERDOSE OF PRESCRIPTION DRUGS OR OTHER DRUGS].
  
  
• FOR EVERY SUICIDE/OR ATTEMPTED SUICIDE UP TO 10 TO 20 OR EVEN OVER 100 PERSONS ARE AFFECTED.
  
  
• THOSE LEFT BEHIND: LOVED ONES, RELATIVES, FRIENDS,CO-WORKERS SUFFER FOREVER.
  CONFUSED, UPSET, SICK OVER THE ACTIONS OF THE PERSON WHO DIES BY SUICIDE.
  THE FINANCIAL AND TIME BURDENS PLACED ON THOSE REMAINING ARE HORRENDUS.
  
  
• SUCIDES ARE VERY SHOCKING TO THE RELATIVES AND FRIENDS OF THE DECEASED, AS MOST SUICIDES GENERALLY OCCUR WITHOUT WARNING.
  
  
• THE PERSON WHO DIES BY SUICIDE GETS RID OF HIS OR HER PAIN AND PROBLEMS BUT IT IS TRANSFERRED TO THOSE LEFT BEHIND ESPECIALLY RELATIVES
  
  
• STATISTICS B.C. OVER 500 PERSONS A YEAR[40 TO 50 A MONTH OR MORE THAN 1 PERSON PER DAY IN BC.] COMMIT SUICIDE.
  
  
• FOR CANADA OVER 5000 PERSONS A YEAR SUCIDE, PLUS PERHAPS UP TO 50,000 PERSONS A YEAR ATTEMPT SUICIDE. THIS IS A NATIONAL TRADGEDY AND STEPS MUST BE TAKEN TO REDUCE THE MENTAL/PHYSICAL/FINANCIAL/EMOTIONAL BURDEN OF SUICIDE AND ATTEMPTED SUICIDE
  
  
• REMEMBER, THOSE REMAINING FAMILY MEMBERS ESPECIALLY CHILDREN OF THE PERSON SUICIDED ARE AT INCREASED RISK OF SUICIDE THEMSELVES IN THEIR ENTIRE LIFETIME. SO PERSONS AT RISK LIKE THIS SHOULD REALIZE THAT MEDICAL FACT, AND GO FOR HELP SOONER RATHER THAT LATER.
  FOR INSTANCE, DEPRESSION, TREAT IT NOW! PLUS OTHERS REMAINING INCLUDING FRIENDS AND CO-WORKERS ARE ALSO AT INCREASED RISK AND VULNERBILITY.
  
  
• A WARNING: WATCH FOR RECENT NEW ADS IN TV/MAGAZINES, ETC. FROM PHARMACEUTICAL COMPANIES RE-PRESCRIPTION SLEEP MEDICINE. READ CAREFULLY THE SUMMARY OF PRESCRIBING INFORMATION. ADVERSE REACTIONS/CONTRAINDICATIONS, INCREASED DEPRESSION AND SUICIDAL THOUGHTS, SO A SLEEP RX MEDICINE CAN PERHAPS TRIP YOU INTO THAT ZONE. IT'S TO DANGEROUS JUST TO GET BETTER SLEEP! THERE ARE NON PRESCRIPTION MEDICINES. A GOOD SHOT OF RUM BEFORE BED MIGHT BE JUST AS HELPFUL AND CHEAPER, OR AT LEAST NO CONTRAINDICATIONS RE-SUICIDE THOUGHTS FROM THE MEDICATION.
  
  
• THE HEALTH CARE SYSTEM FOR MENTALLY ILL MUST BE IMPROVED / THEREFORE TO THE READER OF THIS SITE PLEASE HELP BY PROVIDING THE SUICIDE STATISTICS FOR YOUR CITY/TOWN/STATE/PROVINCE
  [YOU MIGHT HAVE DIFFICULTY GETTING THE STATS AS OFFICIALS DONT WANT THE INFO. OUT IN THE OPEN].
  RATE THE PHYSICIANS THAT HAVE TREATED THE PERSON THAT SUICIDED PLUS ANY M.D. S THAT HAVE TREATED OR STILL TREATING THOSE REMAINING. CLICK WWW.RATEMDS.COM.
  SUICIDE IS THE LAST 'THING' TO COME OUT OF THE 'CLOSET'. LETS MAKE IT HAPPEN.
  
  
• RATE THE HOSPITAL AND OR CLINIC YOUR LOVED ONE/OR FRIEND WAS TREATED AT.
  5 TO 0 5 BEST/ 4-GOOD/3-FAIR/2-NOT GOOD/1-TERRIBLE.
  NAME THE HOSPITAL/OR CLINIC WITH ADDRESS AND TELL YOUR STORY. HOW GOOD OR BAD WAS THE TREATMENT, AND WHAT YOU THINK SHOULD BE DONE ABOUT IT. NO NAMES ARE REQUIRED,BUT PROVIDE DATES, ETC.
  
  
• WHEN/IF A PERSON ENTERS A MENTAL HEALTH FACILITY, STARTS TO RECOVER, AND IS RELEASED. MOST NEVER WANT TO GO BACK. SO SOME DONT TELL THE TRUTH IN OUT PATIENT COUNSELLING. THEY ARE CLEVER/SMART AND NEVER TALK SUICIDE AGAIN. EVEN IF THEY ARE STILL THINKING ABOUT IT. PLUS MANY NEVER ATTEMPT, UNLESS THEY CAN 'DO IT FOR SURE', BECAUSE THEY VOW TO THEMSELVES THEY WILL NEVER GO BACK TO THE HOSPITAL. SOME WOULD SOONER DIE, AND SOME DO. THE WEAKNESS IN THE HEALTH SYSTEM, IS THAT THE PATIENT CANT TRUST THE M.D.S AND COUNSELLORS BECAUSE THEY ARE BOUND BY LAW TO REPORT SUICIDE THOUGHTS/ATTEMPTS, HENCE THE PATIENT KNOWS HIS/HER FREEDOM WILL BE TAKEN AWAY AGAIN. SO SOME KEEP QUIET TO DIE. THE PART ANSWER TO THIS IS TO HAVE 'LAY' COUNSELLORS'[ESP. THOSE THAT HAVE BEEN ILL, AND ARE NOW OK, AND THOSE THAT HAVE BEEN LEFT BEHIND BY THE SUICIDE OF A LOVED ONE/FRIEND OR CO-WORKER], AND 12 STEP MEETINGS WITHOUT PROFESSIONALS, AS LAY PERSONS WOULD NOT HAVE THE SAME AUTHORITY, UNLESS IN AN EMERGENCY JUST AS A CITIZEN. PLUS MEETINGS/COUNSELLING SHOULD BE DAILY. WITH THIS SET UP, AND IN STRICT ANONYMITY, LIKE THE 12 STEP PROGRAMS WOULD BE A LIFELINE TO THOSE ILL. REGULAR PROFESSIONAL HELP COULD STILL BE TAKEN. A COMBINATION OF BOTH SYSTEMS MIGHT SAVE SOME LIVES. SOON MEETINGS, AS DESCRIBED, WILL START TAKING PLACE.
  
  
• SOME CLINICIANS AND COUNSELORS STATE THAT A PERSON WHO TAKES HIS/HER OWN LIFE IS SELFISH OR HAS SELF PITY MANIFESTED TO SELF DEATH, WITHOUT CONSIDERATION OF THOSE LEFT BEHIND, OR IN SOME CASES, TO PUNISH THOSE LEFT BEHIND, OR IN THE BELIEF TO JOIN A LOVED ONE WHO HAS DIED BEFORE./
  
  
• SUICIDE STATS.ORG AND THE SUICIDE PREVENTION INFORMATION BUREAU ARE ADVOCACY GROUPS.WE ARE NOT LAWYERS. HOWEVER, PLEASE TELL US YOUR STORY, AND WE MAY BE ABLE TO HELP.
  ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE BEING DENIED INFORMATION OR LIED TO, OR OBSTRUCTED BY THE HEALTH SYSTEM, CORONERS OFFICE, POLICE, ETC.
  WE HAVE BEEN THROUGH IT ALL. NO NAMES REQUIRED TO TELL YOUR STORY.
  ONCE YOU SEND THE STORY, PLEASE REQUEST US TO CONTACT YOU FOR FURTHER INFORMATION TO DETERMINE IF WE CAN HELP.
  NEVER GIVE UP,AND TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF MENTALLY/PHYSICALLY/FINANCIALLY, SO YOU CAN SURVIVE THE WORST ORDEAL OF YOUR LIFE, THE SUICIDE OF A PERSON CLOSE TO YOU.
  
  
• THIS SITE HAS BEEN CREATED BY THOSE LEFT BEHIND. BY A LOVED ONE THAT HAS SUICIDED, AND PLACED US IN A 'CLUB NO ONE WANTS TO JOIN'
  LIFE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME FOR US, SO THE BEST WE CAN DO IN HIS MEMORY, IS TO PASS ON IDEAS FOR THE WORLD TO CONTEMPLATE AND IF IT SAVES ONE LIFE, OR GIVES COMFORT TO THOSE LEFT BEHIND, IT IS WORTH IT. CREATED IN THE MEMORY OF OUR SON BMJ 1962-2006
  
  
• WE ENCOURAGE PERSONS THAT HAVE LOST A LOVED ONE THROUGH ANY DEATH, ESPECIALLY. SUICIDE, TO FOLLOW THE CUSTOM IN EUROPE. A BLACK ARMBAND IS WORN FOR ONE YEAR, IN MEMORY AND HONOR OF A LOVED ONE OR FRIEND, WHO HAS DIED.
  ADD A RED BAND WITH THE BLACK FOR SUICIDE. A SPECIAL PIN AND OR RING WILL SOON BE AVAILABLE TO WEAR FOREVER IN REMEMBRANCE.
  WE HAVE FOUND THAT THOSE LEFT BEHIND EVEN 20 AND 30 YEARS LATER NEED TO HAVE A LIFETIME SYMBOL OF REMEMBRANCE, AS THEY WANDER THROUGH LIFE, SO THAT EVERYWHERE AND ANYWHERE, ONE MAY FIND THOSE THAT BELONG TO 'THE CLUB THAT NO ONE WANTS TO JOIN'. TO SHARE SOME MOMENTS WITH A COMPLETE STRANGER, THE SADNESS OF BEING LEFT BEHIND, AND TO SHARE THE STRENGTH OF CONTINUING THEIR LIFE TO THE FULLEST.

• AS A REMEMBRANCE TO YOUR LOVED ONE/OR FRIEND THAT HAS DIED BY SUICIDE,YOU CAN NOW HAVE A CUSTOM MADE LAPEL PIN FOR MEN, OR A STICK PIN FOR WOMEN. OR A RING. THE MASK IMAGE ON THIS WEB SITE IS TO BE USED, TO FURTHER INCREASE PUBLIC AWARENESS OF SUICIDE AND SUICIDE PREVENTION. ALSO, BY WEARING DAILY,[IN MEMORY OF YOUR LOVED ONE] AS YOU GO THRU LIFE, STRANGERS, THAT HAVE HAD THE SAME TRAGEDY, WILL COME TO RECOGNIZE THE IMAGE, AND SHARE THAT MOMENT OF GRIEF IN COMMON WITH YOU. AS YOU ARE BOTH IN THE 'CLUB THAT NO ONE WANTED TO JOIN". WORLDWIDE ORDERS, AND CUSTOM INFORMATION CAN BE SENT TO:ROD SMITHSON,MASTER CRAFTSMAN/ARTIST/JEWELER/OWNER OF "JEWELRY AFFAIR CO" 1006 HARRIS ST. SUITE #110, BELLINGHAM WA. USA 98225. PH:360 738 7676 OR EMAIL JAFFAIR@QWESTOFFICE.NET WWW.JEWELRYAFFAIR.COM
  
  
• PSYCHOLOGICAL AUTOPSY AND SUICIDE RECONSTRUCTION. THE REASON A PERSON DECIDES TO DIE BY SUICIDE IS OFTEN A FOREVER MYSTERY FOR THOSE LOVED ONES/FRIENDS AND CO-WORKERS LEFT BEHIND. THERE IS AN EVEN GREATER QUESTION,WHEN THERE APPEARS TO BE NO OBVIOUS HEALTH/PERSONAL/FINANCIAL PROBLEMS OF A PERSON WHO SUICIDES. FROM WORLD WIDE CLINICAL SOURCES, SUICIDESTATS.ORG HAS GATHERED A COMBINED, PROVEN METHOLOGY, TO HELP PROVIDE THOSE LEFT BEHIND,WITH SOME CLOSURE AND POSSIBLE ANSWERS AS TO WHY SUICIDE. THIS UNIQUE SERVICE OF CONDUCTING A PSYCHOLOGICAL AUTOPSY IS AVAILABLE TO ANYONE NEEDING THOROUGH EVALUATION OF AN EQUIVOCAL DEATH,OR FOR THOSE SEEKING TO IDENTIFY POSSIBLE CAUSES FOR A SUICIDAL DEATH. A PSYCHOLOGICAL AUTOPSY CONSISTS OF CONDUCTING INTERVIEWS WITH FRIENDS,FAMILY,CO-WORKERS,PHYSICIANS, AND OTHER PARTIES WHO HAD CONTACT WITH THE DECEASED,PRIOR TO THE SUICIDE. THROUGH THIS PROCESS, A PSYCHOLOGICAL PROFILE OF THE PERSON IS CONTRUCTED IN AN EFFORT TO UNDERSTAND THE FEELINGS,MOTIVES AND BEHAVIORS THAT LED TO THE DEATH. IN ADDITION TO INTERVIEWS,THIS PROCEDURE TYPICALLY INCLUDES A REVIEW OF AVAILABLE RECORDS AND FILE MATERIALS THAT DESCRIBE THE SUBJECT AND, A COMPREHENSIVE CASE IS THEREFORE DEVELOPED. WITH SUFFICIENT DATA,A PSYCHOLOGICAL AUTOPSY CAN CREATE A MOSAIC PICTURE THAT CAN SHED LIGHT ON THE SOME OF THE FACTORS LEADING TO DEATH BY SUICIDE. HOPEFULLY,ANSWERS FROM THIS SURVEY, WILL PROVIDE THOSE LEFT BEHIND WITH ADDITIONAL CLOSURE/FORGIVENESS/UNDERSTANDING/EMPATHY/ AND STRENGH TO CARRY ON WITH LIFE WITHOUT THEIR LOVED ONE. FOR MORE INFORMATION/RATES/FEES/TERMS INFO@SUICIDESTATS.ORG WWW.SUICIDESTATS.ORG 1 800 661 7799
  
• Quote: "Can the power of suggestion make one kill oneself? Yes, if one is weak and vulnerable."
  - Rosmary Thyme-London England.
  
  

TO THOSE LEFT BEHIND PLEASE TELL YOUR STORY [CHANGE THE NAMES] ABOUT THE SUICIDE IN YOUR LIFE HOW IT HAPPENED WHEN ETC AND HOW YOU HAVE BEEN AFFECTED AND ESPECIALLY TELL IF YOUR LOVED ONE THAT SUICIDED OR THOSE REMAINING HAVE HAD GOOD OR BAD SERVICE FROM THE HELPING AGENCIES /DOCTORS/CLINICS/COUNSELLING SERVICES SO WE CAN START TO MONITOR. AND INDICATE THE PRESCRIPTION DRUGS YOUR LOVED ONE WAS ON. AS SOME CLASS LEGAL ACTIONS HAVE STARTED WORDWIDE AND YOU MAY BENEFIT.

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WEEKLY GROUP SESSIONS WILL BE STARTING SOON. THOSE SESSIONS ARE FREE. NO PROFESSIONALS ARE ALLOWED. .JUST THOSE LEFT BEHIND, AND IN COMPLETE ANONYMITY.
GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANGE, COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN, AND WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.

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SUICIDE, OF A FAMILY MEMBER AND THE STRUGGLE OF THOSE LEFT BEHIND.

PREFACE:Note: the writer of these articles is not a professional writer, and the articles are not proof read for grammatical errors etc. Please excuse any errors, as the story must be told now, as there is no time or extra money for corrections. Plus certain information given in the chapters will be useful for persons going through similar situations.

Chapter 1

This is a true story,only the names have changed. Any resemblance to those living or dead is purely co-incidental. December 12, 2006. The fatal phone call:Mark has had an accident on the bridge! When,where,what was he driving? He wasn't driving? What happened? Quick to the hospital,heavy traffic,heavy rain, weave in and out,speeding,back lanes,trembling in silence,the parents screeched to a halt in front of emergency......fast ...run....hit the elevator...run down the hall. The wife and children waiting.....Mark,the Dad is in surgery. A new person is sitting with the Family. Who are you,asks the Father? Do you work with Mark? No, I am just a friend of Chrys. Tense hours go by,but strangely no one is crying,no one is talking. A Doctor visits us. The news is grim:now is the time to visit Mark,probably for the last time, it seems he won't make it. We take our turns, silently, entering the room of death. This is like a TV drama: beep, beep, beep and soft flashing lights. Its quite dark really. There he is, my son, shrouded in white, but his face is soft and white and silent. I was the last one to go in. There I was holding my sons hand and saying "son, you promised, you promised you would not do this", I repeated over and over as tears were streaming down. Then I looked up and there was this total stranger,friend of Chrys, holding my sons hand....she had followed me in! I uttered "what the hell are you doing here"? I don't even know you!! Get out!! I am here to help said the stranger, do you want me to go? Yes, get out, get out. She left. There I was, the last few minutes with my son, the beep, beeps, were slowing down, the heart monitor wave lengths were fractured and then stopped. It was over, my only son was dead.

Chapter 2

Funerals are no pleasant happenings. Arrangements are a new experience for most. Which Funeral Home, what type of ceremony, traditional burial, or ashes[what kind of box] and the COST!? A religious person to conduct,the music,the refreshments after,the news advert. and/and/and.......as one is crying,worried,traumatized by the suicide of a loved one. WHY/WHY?WHY?..........how could this have happened?? The advocate in the hospital said,"suicide is a selfish act" NO,NO,NO,NO,NEVER IN OUR CASE. Going over to our sons house to talk over the arrangements with the [now] widow.. our sons wife. Up the stairs, into the sun room to the living room. What's this? 4 or 5 black garbage bags of what? My God........our sons clothing and things!!! one day after his death!! This is impossible, how the hell am I going to keep cool over this.....this outrageous display of hurt. What the hell is she trying to do to us? There she is....not disturbed at all...really quite cool........watching,listening for our reaction to the garbage bags. No comment from both of us, as we tried not to show we wanted to vomit. Where are the children? How are they I asked? Oh don't worry about them,she said. Oh, to myself, the kids just lost their Dad forever..and don't worry about them? Impossible again. We get the okay for the arrangements for the funeral and leave. No hugs or crying from her,no coffee...zip..zero. It was like "I got rid of my husband,now I want to get rid of you two". We went to the car, and burst out crying as we drove away. Little did we know,this would be the beginning of the worst next 5 years of our lives.

Chapter 3

ASHES.....weeks after the funeral.....phone calls to us the parents from the the Church and the Funeral Home....come and pick up the ashes states the message. We have phoned the widow many times without an answer,states the staff member and the Minister. I then call the widow. She states..I wont pick up the ashes and I don't want them......if you want them pick them up and keep them. Well, after that shock, I pick up the ashes and take our son home. My God, I don't believe this...all that is left of my son in the trunk of my car! Oh God how can we handle this, I ask myself, but we must carry on. Weeks go by, and I receive a call from her:come by and fix the swing and the fence. Ok, I say with some reluctance. I could not imagine what came next. There I was ...just fixed the swing for our grandchildren, our sons kids. Where is she, I asked myself? Then she appeared and said: "did you bring Mark?" I said to myself..did I hear this right?.....did she really say "did you bring Mark? I then thought "what is she saying?..am I nuts or is she?" Do you mean did I bring Marks ashes, I asked? Yes, give them to me now, they are mine!! You didn't ask me to bring back his ashes I said. Does not matter...did you bring Mark...she repeated. I stumbled and said I am going to the Funeral Home to make the arrangements to give them back to you. That's not necessary she said, just go home now, and bring them back to me today. But, I said, you stated you did not want the ashes, and wouldn't pick them up...why now? Doesn't matter what I said before, I want ALL of the ashes now. No, I said, we the parents want some of the ashes also. Defiantly she screamed "the ashes are all mine..thats the law" and you cant have any. Just a teaspoon full.......please? NO...she screamed again. I turned and looked, 2 of the children were listening. Then I stated I was leaving, and said make sure we can still see the children regardless of this dispute. As I drove away in shock, unknown to me she had more shocks for us, just a few months after our sons death. A few days later, a letter was received from her lawyer "the law states that 100% of the deceased spouses ashes are 100% owned by the surviving spouse" and the parents have no legal right for any portion!! Would you believe that? We parents have no rights to our deceased sons ashes!! Even if she wants to throw the ashes away....we parents have no rights. Who the hell wrote that law...some crap ass lawyer?? Little did we know the 'ashes' were part of the widows plan to demoralize us, punish us for what? Giving her our fine son,that gave her a good life, and 3 beautiful children, a house, a life she didn't have before. Kripes, what the hell is going on here anyway? What kind of a sicko is she anyway? Our sons mother,my wife begged her for months on the phone to please,please allow us to have just a 'teaspoon" of our sons ashes for when we die. NO,THEY ARE MINE LEGALLY ALL MINE AND YOU 2 CAN GO TO HELL....RETURN THEM NOW OR I WILL TAKE YOU TO COURT!! Little did she know, at the transfer of our sons ashes to her at a Funeral Home that she and her lady friend witness would not only get the ashes,but a Police File opened in their names, that would follow them forever.

Chapter 4: Entrapment and the Set Up

I cant believe this. Here I am sitting in the office of the Funeral Home, with my sons ashes, the manager of the Home, and my friend as a witness. I have never been in this position in my entire life. This is so bizarre! Its silent, kind of takes the breath out of one. Waiting for the widow to show up to receive her husbands ashes she never wanted. We have her Lawyers letter....thats the law! Even though she kicked him out of home while ill,wanted a divorce, and insisted on telling the children before Christmas. She would not even respond to the Funeral Home and Church..."come pick them up". We, the parents had to. Still waiting for the widow to show up, will she I wondered, or is the all part of her sick game? At the suggestion of the Home manager, I opened the ashes box to verify all ok. Verified. I don't imagine very many people have opened the ashes box of a loved one. Its not pleasant. To my surprise its heavy, but just the size of about 8x8x8 inches....thats it....sounds terrible..when its all over we humans fit in that size box. In comes the widow, right on time, with a lady witness. Amazing, I say to myself, this is the same lady that followed me into my Son's death bed at the hospital!! What the hell is going on here? However, lets get down to business. Prior to widows arrival, I placed a 1 page receipt letter on the table, with a tape recorder and camera. The widow is now reading the letter, which asks for her signature, if full receipt of her husbands ashes,and another request for some ashes for us ...the parents. I WONT SIGN THIS SHE BELLOWS!!. I ignore her comments and proceed to open the ashes box. The lid is off, the ashes are in a heavy clear plastic bag, with an I.D. tag attached. This is the law, to avoid mistakes in cremation. In full view, the tape machine is recording with its tell tale red light blinking, and I then pick up my camera to photo the ashes inside the box with the I.D. tag. Then I turn the camera on them. Stop...no photos..her friend screams at me and puts her hand in front of my camera and my face. Then the unthinkable,unfathomable happens, the widow grabs the open ashes box.........and starts screaming THEIR MINE!!...THEIR MINE!!...as she runs to the exit. I follow with camera clicking, and her friend is following trying to stop me for photographing this traumatic event. Outside, the widow locks herself in her friends car, while the friend mutters slurs and false statements to me...this new stranger...that I had only met once before....the night of my sons death. Then they drove away. What a shocking experience.......I was numb.......so was my witness friend and the Funeral Home manager. Never in over 30 years in the Funeral business had the manager ever witnessed such sick behavior. The question for all of us: why would the widow act this way,scream and run away with the ashes, when she knew they were hers anyway. That was the purpose of the meeting. My witnesses had the answer, as I was too confused and hurt to understand why the hell she "acted" out this way. The answer was: to hurt me, to get me to overreact, to threaten them so they could call the police and have me charged for assault. This was all a prearranged plan by the two of them to devastate me, and to devastate my wife when I returned home with the story of what happened. It didn't work. The Home manager wanted me to go to the Police, and have them open a file to document this incident. I proceeded to do that with my witness friend. Police file #07-381164[this is a true file #] was opened on August 8/2007. The two of them now have a Police file opened on them that will follow them forever. What was the real reason these two ladies acted this way by plan? The answer is forthcoming over the next few years. There is an old saying..."The evil person becomes part of their own punishment" and another "What a tangled web of lies and deceit we weave, only to become self entrapped in our evil ways" Little did these ladies know, how their evil ways would entrap them.......right through to the 5th year of my sons death. Yes, 5 years later, that's how long it took me and others to uncover the real reasons for their unethical, immoral, disgusting behavior. But that's many more stories to come.

Chapter 5: Lets go back to the beginning

How did 2 people who met, fell in love, got married,had 3 children, a solid middle class family, a house,cars etc. etc. How did that unravel over 15 years to the suicide of the husband,father, leaving the wife,now widow,the 3 children of them both,and the sons parents behind? Mom was a stay at home mother,Dad was a trades person,hard worker, things were financially tight, as most families with a non working spouse,3 children,the mortgage etc. ...what's new? Most experience this at the beginning. The wife's parents died when she was a teenager, so she did not experience all her growing up years with parents, and never knew or had grandparents. So what!..you might ask....well here is what. The first child was born a year or so after marriage, then fairly quickly the other 2. The grandparents were elated. However, strange things started to happen after the first born: a strange phone call from our son. Dad, he said, is Mom okay? What do you mean Son? Well my wife thinks that Mom is too enamored with Mike, and is worried she might take Mike to the States and away from us!!!!...Did I hear this right??? Son...that is totally outrageous........how could she ever think that way?? I don't know, but that's her worry, so tell Mom to 'cool it" with Mike when she is babysitting etc. and don't mention this conversation to my wife. Many other similar incidences from the Mom....over a period of some years, until one evening we received a phone call from our Son: Dad and Mom get on the speaker phone my wife and I have something to say to you both: then the 'shocker".....our son stated: my wife and I no longer will permit you two to see our children any more! In disbelief,we asked why not? have we done anything wrong? No, but my wife does not think grandparents are necessary in the children's lives. Plus we have other friends your age that can network with the children, babysit etc. Lets talk about this I said...No he said our decision is final....goodbye and have a good life! [hang up] Over..thats it.....unbelievable..we muttered to ourselves. What to do next...well ..phone back...couldnt..their phone # already blocked! Cry a bit, figure out what to do next. Join the Grandparents Rights Assoc. To our amazement DOZENS of grandparents attending, all with the same problem. Can no longer see/visit with their grandchildren, for no cause.[meaning: nothing done by the grandparents to warrant such action] My family m.d. states this is a "white mans disease".....meaning he rarely sees grandparents excluded in non-white families.On the contrary,he states, in some Asian cultures, grandparents are considered precious jewels within the family,adds stability,income,wisdom passed on to the grandchildren etc. We write letters to the parents..no replies,months go by.

Chapter 6

I must take the reader back to less than a year after our Sons death in 2006 to the next year 2007. The widow/mom about 4 months after our sons death stopped all visitations with the grandchildren, after 10 years of grandparents and grandchildren having a wonderful life together, nearly weekly. Back to Family Services, and new case worker, as the other fellow had left Govt. Service. She said she would contact the widow/mom and try to re-establish the visitations. The mom said NO, to any meetings to discuss the matter, and confirmed no more visitations. Back to the Courts.

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